The importance of friendship.

Yesterday, I learned that after relationship, employment and other personal issues, a close friend of mine tried to take her own life. It transpires that she had driven at speed into a motorway barrier. Thankfully she is okay. Needless to say, I am left almost lost about what to say or do after such an event. The outcome could so easily have been so much worse for so many people.

I have received a text message from her, telling me that she does not want to speak at this time. Although I wish to respect that, I must not stand by and do nothing. When in situations such as this, when one says they do not want hassle, the reality is typically the complete opposite - They are very much in need of support whether they admit it or not. Please I beg of you, if you are in a similar situation, take heed of this.

I have sent her a reply stating clearly that I am there to understand her if others do not, and I have sent her some flowers, and a gift of friendship. It is at times such as this, where people discover who their friends really are. I intend to be such a friend.

Tags: death, depression, down, emotion, friends, friendship, happy, importance, life, reassurance

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Comment by David on November 5, 2008 at 2:35pm: The real question is: "Was this really a suicide attempt, or just a plea for attention?" Many people make the mistake of assuming the latter. If she really IS determined to take her own life, she will succeed despite your best attempt to stop it. If you treat this event as just a temper tantrum, and it's not; then forcing your attentions on her will only push her to try again. Desperation tends to wear-off with time. Best thing to do is let her come to you.

Comment by Sol McNally Aka : Dmitri Girl on November 4, 2008 at 7:40pm: I would say people in this girl's state of mind. The last thing that people want is for people to feel sorry for them. So as she may have done this to get attention. It is also really the last thing that she wants. She just wanted to be noticed. It is an honestly awkward phase. The gift and flowers will mean a lot to her I am sure of it. And as long as your not saying anything that is directly directed toward the incident things should get back to normal. When someone gets to me personally in this state of mind the best thing to do is just to listen. They want to talk and act like what they did wasn't a big deal rather then someone making a big deal out of it. The best advice I can try to give you is trust is something that is slowly accomplished. And from what it sounds like this individual has been hurt and is failing to trust.

Comment by Chris Dobson on November 4, 2008 at 5:29pm: Yes it is about the incident, which se does not want to speak about. Thank you for your kind words.

Comment by jenn on November 4, 2008 at 1:47pm: i commend your love and care your friend. its good that you respect her wishes of not wanting to speak. is that speaking to you period? or just talking about what happened? if it's just about what happened, then be there for her. be present. love and care for her as the friend you find so dear. make sure she doesn't feel alone. be present for her. she needs you, so continue to be there. stay strong. prayers & blessings upon you both!