First Loves

I’m sure most of you who are old enough, have had a first love. Did he/she know how you felt? Was it reciprocated? How old were you?

I was just sitting here thinking about mine. The reason I'm thinking about him is my mother brought up his name when I called to wish her a happy birthday.

My feelings were not returned, unfortunately. I was about 16 years old when I first discovered my first love. And I'm sure he knew how I felt. I was never very good at hiding my feelings.

When I look back it's hard to believe I was ever that innocent and young!

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Permalink Reply by Zagorath on April 9, 2009 at 9:58pm: Mine was the 20th March 2009 :D
We got together on the 26th, and we're still together.
I was 14 at the start, but am 15 now, and she is 14.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by lauren l on April 11, 2009 at 5:49am: mine was about 3 months ago, i was with the boy 7 months we told eachother everything even spent christmas together we could sit and talk for hours no awkward silences and he used to make me feel so special! we argued but we always got through it. it ended when i broke up with him i was in love with him but i was only young and a lot of rumours were going around so i ended it, he then told me that he was happy we were over and that he liked someone else but a week later wanted us to be back together and i still loved him so i thought yeah we could get back together. i went to his house and we kissed and all feelings came pouring back, after i told him i was in love with him and he said i want to be with you too but after my birthday it was a bit wierd but i thought fair enough! next day he had her (L) in his msn name so i asked who "she" was and he told me it was me, but his friends told me he was with another girl, i cried for days and he told me hed take me back in a month i was stupid enough to believe him but when the month came he told me it wasnt going to happen! where i cried for another feew days, him and the other girl have been together 3 months and im trying to get over it but i cant, i still cry over him, he texts me teling me he needs me and stuff and he misses me but he then gets mad and tells me he doesnt like me.i still cry :( i honestly dont know what to do anymore.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on April 11, 2009 at 8:21am: Sweetie, don't let him play mind games with you. If he can't make up his mind, he isn't worth the tears. Walk away from him and don't let him see the tears, don't let him see the pain. There will be better guys later on who will appreciate you. I'm sorry you are going thru this.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by lauren l on April 14, 2009 at 4:14pm: thanks, i just wish things could of been done differently, another boy reaally likes me atm but i dont think im ready for another relationship yet.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on April 14, 2009 at 8:23pm: Best not to rush into anything new right away. If this other guy really likes you, he may understand, if you explain you need time.

We can learn from all our experiences and relationships, good and bad ones. From my bad relationships, I learned what to look for in a guy and what to stay away from. If we are smart, we use that knowledge. So, good luck. Be happy.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by david_mallette on April 11, 2009 at 6:15am: Love and hate are two faces of the same coin. Love is a word that people use to describe a personnel quest for something they imagine they need and become lost and confused. Then they spend a greater part of their llives stunned by the pain of the experience.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on April 15, 2009 at 2:21am: My mother used to tell me there was a thin line between love and hate.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sol McNally Aka : Dmitri Girl on April 14, 2009 at 9:36pm: Ok so I was thinking back to all the people I would say that I loved in this manner. And honestly I am not sure who of my previous bf's I would call my first love. And this is truly and completely honest. I mean there are things that I can say that I loved about 3 people in my life before my fiancee. But knowing what I do now about love. I would not say that I loved any of them. Because none of them could ever compare to the true love of my life now. I mean to think back of how they treated me each of them. There was no real love it was all sort of a figment of my imagination. I am not upset at any of them cause they have all taught me things of my journey in life. But I will say looking back sometimes I made some not so wonderful choices in relationship partners and knowing things about them and choosing to love them when they obviously did not reciprocate ad Granny Diane says. I heard the words but the words were there and I was blinded by my love for them. Not their love for me.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on April 15, 2009 at 2:17am: Then, I guess you can say Dmitri is your first live, Sol.

A first love and a true love can be 2 different things. Many people misunderstand that. My first love was a very innocent thing. I'm sure the person knew how I felt about him. But he never hurt my feelings. He was always kind and gentle and friendly. I knew he did not feel the same. But that was okay. I will always treasure the friendship and the memories.

The feelings I had for Tony were so different. There was definitely no comparison. But I treasure both.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sol McNally Aka : Dmitri Girl on April 21, 2009 at 2:03pm: I would say My first love is honestly Dmitri. And not for the fact of other things but the fact of knowing what love is changed my mind.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Andrew on April 15, 2009 at 2:43am: I was 16. It was my first bass guitar...

What? I'm not much for romance. It's not that I don't believe in the possibility, it's that I'll be single come hell or high water. I just don't like the idea of marriage, kids... The typical American dream isn't for me.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by popUP on July 3, 2009 at 2:31pm: over 2 and half years with her..one big mistake on her part ruined it all for both of us. its so upsetting thats all am going to say about it.. :); ▶ Reply to This