First Loves

I’m sure most of you who are old enough, have had a first love. Did he/she know how you felt? Was it reciprocated? How old were you?

I was just sitting here thinking about mine. The reason I'm thinking about him is my mother brought up his name when I called to wish her a happy birthday.

My feelings were not returned, unfortunately. I was about 16 years old when I first discovered my first love. And I'm sure he knew how I felt. I was never very good at hiding my feelings.

When I look back it's hard to believe I was ever that innocent and young!

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Permalink Reply by Lex224 on March 10, 2009 at 11:33pm: My fist love was a couple years back. The feeling were reciprocated thanfully and we had a 16 month relationship out of it. I was 17/18 and she was 15/16. To be honest, this is the closest thing to love I've known so I don't actually know that this was love and not just infactuation. Still, I'm pretty sure it was love, it was an awesome relationship for most of the time.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on March 11, 2009 at 1:32am: I believe the first love is more than infatuation. I still remember, after all these years, the feelings and what I went thru. I'm glad she returned your feelings. You have good memories, then, to look back on.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Matz Rios on March 10, 2009 at 11:42pm: hi there Granny Diane well I'm only 17 yrs old now turning 18,i had my first love when i was still in kindergarten i know it was really early but i already told her that but i was really afraid to court her,i don't want to ruin our friendship she became my best friend when we where in elementary and that was it,,and even now i still have feeling for her,,and she knows it,,hehe,,but we are now far away from each other i'm now here Canada and she's still in the Philippines,,i really miss her a lot!!!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on March 11, 2009 at 1:37am: You said she became your best friend. So something good came out of it, right? Even though you are far apart, are you able to keep in touch? And who knows, you both may meet again in the future. Did she ever say what her feelings were?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Matz Rios on March 11, 2009 at 2:55pm: well i was always her crying shoulder,,..she always tells me her problems and i make her happy but she never told me what she felt for me,,..; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Paul Bennett on March 11, 2009 at 4:54am: I was loved by all the girls when i was in kindergarten because i had snowy white hair beaut blue eyes cute smile etc.

They all thought i was cute, but now i'm not as cute as i used to be. After i had been bullied in my new school,(i was moved to get into the right highschool), when i got to the last stage of primary/elementary school, this girl who i guess eiher was doing it to show off or she truely did feel sorry for me and saw that i was extreme in my shyness, got together with me for a school only relationship and then when we left primary/elementary school for highschool, we never saw eachother again.

And the rest they say, is history........ :( :S :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on March 11, 2009 at 11:29am: My youngest brother had hair and eyes like that and everyone adored him, so I know what you mean. But I'm sorry about the bullying. I would like to believe that girl did like you.

\By the way, the picture you have as your avatar is cute. If that is you, then you are still cute!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cookenstein on March 11, 2009 at 5:40am: I was 13, and she ended up breaking my heart. She left me when I went to military school. I got a "Dear john" letter. It was really sad. I think it anchored my feelings and often times inability to love after that for many years. I did not ever want that feeling of rejection and abandonment again, and so loving someone was hard for me for a long time. This however went on a few times over the coming years, and maybe for the right reasons.

Love was a tough thing for me to wrap myself around growing up.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on March 11, 2009 at 11:36am: I'm sorry that she was so insensitive to send a Dear John letter. But I guess you can put that down to her age? At 13, we are still so young and to get hurt like that can leave a deep impression on us. I hope you eventually did find love.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cookenstein on March 13, 2009 at 7:05pm: You know I did. I faced a few relationships like this in my early days. But I also had my own demons to cope with then as well, so maybe it all worked out for the best. This one being my first was a classic though. I got the letter after I was sent to military school, when I really needed her support. It was a back breaker. It took a looong time to get over her.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dan on March 23, 2009 at 4:28pm: That military stuff can really mess things up sometimes. Been there done that, as you can see by my post on page 6, I think. Sorry you went thru it too.
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Permalink Reply by Mystic Virgo on November 2, 2009 at 5:54am: Dear John letter are rough, but at least you were extended the courteousy. All I got was a door in the face.; ▶ Reply to This