Do you think that a curfew on a computer is fair?

My mum got a curfew put onto my computer because she felt I wasn't getting enough sleep. I can't access the internet from 10:30pm onwards. This applies to weekends as well, and when I found out I was pretty much furious.
I agree that it's fair enough that I shouldn't be sitting up till 2am on a school night. But if I'm expected to be in bed at the same time on weekends then I'm one very sad teenager indeed. I decided to give the curfew a try for a week, and now that I've had it for a while, it's doing my head in. I've met the love of my life online, and we're exceedingly happy together even with a 5 hour time difference. Though by the time he gets home from school, it's already 9pm or later. So I'm being limited in that aspect too, seeing as talking with him is hard enough as it is.

Do you think curfews are fair?
Do you think it's acceptable to have the same limits on weekends as well as weekdays?

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Tags: 10:30, curfew, overseas, sleep, weekdays, weekends

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Permalink Reply by Wile E Coyote on February 9, 2009 at 9:38am: Damn right. If they use the computer constantly they just play games or do things that arent educational. First start them on books then tell them when they move out they can use a computer at any time they want.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by randomshadowmusic on February 11, 2009 at 3:14am: lol I read a LOT of books XD
I mostly use my computer for school assignments and chatting to friends. the odd game occassionally but nothing like gaming for 9 hours.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Shepard on February 9, 2009 at 9:49am: I think it's totally fair actually, Until your an adult you live by their rules, when you pay your own bills and manage your time for yourself then by all means do what you like with it. Your parents aren't trying to be mean. They are simply watching out for you. it's not smart to stay up all night during school regardless of what the reason is. They have obviously noticed a problem or they probably wouldn't have an issue with it.

Not to mention that online boyfriends will come and go even though they all seem like "the one" it's important to keep things in perspective. Priorities at this point in life is a crucial thing. you can set yourself up now for easy success later on. Eventualy you can enjoy whatever situation or rules you feel like living by. when your old enough you will be the only one making rules for yourself. That's when you stay up till whenever doing whatever.
however, until then, it's their ball game and their rules. maybe if you maintained straight A grades and found away to pay the internet bill you'd have more leverage to negotiate with.

I do agree though I think you should be able to work out a weekend kind of deal. No need to be cut off on the weekends.

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Permalink Reply by randomshadowmusic on February 11, 2009 at 3:16am: As for online boyfriends, we've been going for four months now and we don't feel as if it's going to be some little 2 minute crush type thing.
I still agree about weekends, I should be able to go online later than 10:30.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Petricia Daemon on February 9, 2009 at 9:55am: I'm 25 years old and I still have curfews, welcome to the Military! Parents set those pesky curfews in your best interest. When I was a kid I was only allowed to be out one hour past sundown. Seems pretty silly, but in the grand scheme it gave my parents a set time to start worrying about my where abouts. When I started driving I wasn't allowed to stay out past midnight on the weekends and I was to be back inside by 9pm on weekdays, not that these ever got enforced, I had no real need to be out gallivanting. I've never had a set time to go to sleep, it was always the rule that if you had trouble getting out of bed or performing during the day it was time to start going to bed earlier.

I can understand why your parents would set these curfews though, my friends have kids of their own and they're only looking out for your best interests. It's not because they CAN it's because they feel the NEED and they can. Once you get out into the wonderful world of living on your own you'll probably see that they helped you out by getting you used to routine schedules, because that is what it is out here in the "wide world".; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kristofer Davis on February 9, 2009 at 10:28am: I don't have a curfew. And, even if I did, I would change it, because I have access to the administrator's account and would bypass it or disable it. I also have a password reset disk.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nick on February 9, 2009 at 10:28am: Each Parent is different in ways of parenting their children. How old are you? If you are under 18, you are still a child and I find it fair for a parent to set a curfew on the computer.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by randomshadowmusic on February 11, 2009 at 3:17am: I'm 14, and I agree with my parents on the weekday curfew, but the weekends are just mad.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by WyldCherry on February 9, 2009 at 10:37am: Here's what my mama always told me when I was your age: "I love you but I'm supreme ruler of this household. (seriously she would always say that) I make the rules because you can't even afford toilet paper. Until the days comes when you can afford your own rent, shut up and deal with it!" :D Ahhh, the memories...

Yeah, I understand how you feel. My mum would put a curfew on telephone use (this is before cell phones and internet were widely available...I'm sooo old). It sucked back then, but I realize now that I was probably raking up the telephone bill. I kind of feel bad now.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Frank Miller on February 9, 2009 at 10:42am: Yes there should be limits on school nights. Sunday night is a school nite Friday is not.
AS long as your grades are in line with your IQ weekends are free.
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Permalink Reply by randomshadowmusic on February 11, 2009 at 3:18am: One of the top students in my year. And my mum nearly framed my report card, so I'm assuming I'm a good little girl education wise XD; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michael Trimm on February 9, 2009 at 12:38pm: Yes, I do. Especially weeknight curfews. Depending on your age...I would say 11pm if you're 16-17, 10 if you're 14-15. 9:30 or so if you're younger.

Weekend curfews are still necessary, but I'd add a few hours (1 or 2 if you're 16). I would've hated this when I was subject to Mom's rules (I'm only about to turn 19), but now I wouldn't have minded it. I usually do all my computing in the later evening now that I'm in college and working.

As far as her removing the restriction(I read your comment reply), is it in your router? I know our router back home (a Belkin) has time restrictions on it. Help her check there.; ▶ Reply to This