Any advice for getting a girlfriend?

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Permalink Reply by Shan The Man on November 26, 2008 at 2:20am

I think that a lot of guys get nervous talking to women because they don't do it often. They're intimidated by the chance of rejection which makes them uber anxious. If they'd just relax, enjoy themselves and be funny or intellectual or whatever, things would roll a lot smoother. But you're right about the butterflies. When you're around that one person that totally makes you giddy, it's an awesome experience.

Permalink Reply by Chris Christman on November 26, 2008 at 3:07am

Just be yourself. Do not consume yourself trying to show off or be someone you are not just to try and get some chick to pay attention to you. Yes, you need to get out and socialize, but don't go looking for a girlfriend necessarily. Just go be yourself, associate with other people, and chances are you'll meet someone who likes the kind of person you are.

Permalink Reply by Guys Cry Too on November 26, 2008 at 7:13am

If I were any of you - I'd visit my own new website: www.GuysCryToo.com - Relationship Advice for Dudes.

But realistically, step 1: Don't put women on a pedestal. Their humans as well... guys tend to forget that in general and treat them as some type of sex object. So, if I were you, I would just be yourself - and walk up to a girl and say "Hi, I'm ______________" - plain and simple - and if you come across as sincere and the woman isn't an immature girl - you may just be on your way to setting up a date.

It's not hard. Just be yourself. Always. Remain eye contact, don't stare at her chest!

Permalink Reply by David on November 30, 2008 at 10:47pm

I will agree with "just be yourself" that is how I found my wife. I wasn't flashy, or high priced. As a matter of fact I was just about average.

Wife still thinks it was an "evil plot" to lure her in!!

My though: "ok honey, if you say so!"

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on November 30, 2008 at 11:59pm

I agree with Severne, be yourself. Don't try to be a different person than who you really are. If you do get the girl, how long would you be able to keep the pretense up? Bren said it all. Good advice.
Remember, the girl is probably just as nervous and insecure as you are. She may not show it, but she is. I always try to think of how I like someone to talk to me, to behave toward me, to treat me. Everyone likes kind words. Everyone likes a smiling face. You treat people the way you want to be treated.
But I say do not feel you need to rush into any type of relationship too fast. Just being friends is a very good start. Get to know each other as friends before trying to be girlfriend/boyfriend.

Permalink Reply by Sassy Sweet Bren on December 1, 2008 at 12:11am

Granny, you are dead on target with the comment about being friends first. Having a great friend can be more important than having a girlfriend. Besides, sometimes our greatest friends become either our boyfriend or g/f.

Permalink Reply by GrannyDiane on December 1, 2008 at 1:17am

Yes, my husband was my best friend. That's why we had such a great marriage. We knew each other and were friends before we became seriously involved.

Permalink Reply by Tyler on December 1, 2008 at 12:35am

You already broke the first rule, don't sign up for a geeks account.

Permalink Reply by TyphoidKitten on December 1, 2008 at 1:00am

Don't.

Permalink Reply by TyphoidKitten on December 1, 2008 at 1:18am

This is epiclly true.

This has happend to me 3 times(Physics, what a time to talk). That small bond that turns to friendship.


And if your good at giving advice be ready for talking
...i can still hear the voices....

Permalink Reply by Martin Forsyth on December 1, 2008 at 3:38am

Cmon thats simple!
I mean to get the right girl, all you gotta do is be yourself.... i mean, you could play about being all gangster, coz that what you see other people doing - but face it, if she does get with you, she won't be with you.... she'll be with a wanna-be gangster, right? So rahter stick with being yourself.
Another thing is to relax.... i mean, it's only a girl, not a monster out to kill you..... try to show off your better qualities. if you have a great smile, then show it off - but that doesn't mean grin the whole time as though your high.... also don't try and tell her your life story all at once.... listen a bit to what she has to say, comment to it, so she knows your listening...
remember most guys fall flat coz they ain't confident - tho don't be over-confident, coz then she's gonna think you some player, out to eat her and leaver her....
Most girls enjoy a guy that is charming, funny, and an overall good guy, coz they know he might just be the one - not like all those other jerks.....

Permalink Reply by Mohamad on December 1, 2008 at 5:06am

just be ur self and take time on having fun

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